One of the big deal is that I come across many times in my work with men is the question of how they are going to get into a relationship.
Often there are many misconceptions held by men about what women actually want in a relationship. Men tend to centre on the physical aspects of the relationships such as physical appearance, sexual capacity, and regrettably, even penis size. As far as the attractiveness of a prospective partner is concerned, men tend to focus on things like attractiveness, breast size, height, blonde hair and so on.
These are very superficial measurements of partners worth, and they tend to lead to misunderstandings, poor relationships, and superficial attractions which expire when the partners discover that they actually have very little in common.
The classic view of relationships is that for a relationship to succeed, there needs to be a considerable degree of empathy, emotional intimacy, and sexual pleasure between the partners.
Yet even though this is undoubtedly true, there is evidence that physical attractiveness plays a role in bringing people together. Years ago, research was conducted which demonstrated that people find partners who are approximately as attractive as themselves, presumably because their self-worth is based at, at least to some degree, on the level of physical attractiveness that they perceive they possess.
Now if this were true, it would clearly mean that a man who could make himself more attractive, and who knew he was more attractive, would have an advantage in dating and mating — a crude way of saying establishing a relationship and enjoying sex.
So is it true that women are affected by how attractive a man is, is it true that women simply rely on physical attraction, is it true that looking good will get you the girl?
It’s a fascinating question, because we traditionally assumed the years — in accordance with what is now known as the double standard, that women are more interested in emotional connection, and far less likely to seek sex for sex’s sake than men are.
Yet the truth of the matter appears to be that women are just as interested in sex is men, and they’re just as interested in men’s physical appearances men are in women’s physical appearance.
What seems to be different is that the subsequent actions when a man and a woman find a member of the opposite sex attractive are different – women will then test the man in various ways, establishing whether or not he would be a reliable partner for a long-term relationship; men, by contrast, seem to want to engage in sex, and are not necessarily interested in relationship — even though they may make false promises to get the immediate reward of intercourse.
Now all of these things are clearly quite identifiable with preconceptions that sociobiologists have about male sexual behaviour: that women need to make sure a man is going to stick around to help raise the children, while the man is more interested in procreating with as many women as possible, and investing as little time and energy as possible in the relationship.
It would be nice to think that our evolution has led to a situation where men are more interested in a long-term relationship an emotional connection, while women are interested in the same thing, but the truth of the matter is that our evolution appears to have snared a simple situation where we are superficially bound by our genetic inheritance to reproduce in a certain way — women finding a partner the long-term, while men look for a woman to inseminate and move on.
So what can we do to consciously interfere with these establish patterns of sexual behaviour?
Well, one thing that can certainly be done is for a man to make himself look as attractive as possible, so that he attracts in turn the more attractive women. How does this help you may ask?
the answer here seems to be that if a man is with an attractive woman he’s going to be more likely to stick around, and enjoy sex with in the long-term – there’s certainly a lot of evidence to suggest that physical attraction is compelling fact for men.
On the other side of the equation, woman obviously wants get the man who represents the best possible partner for her sexually and for the children’s genetic inheritance. It transpires that one bizarre factor that can identify genetically whether or not a man is a good mate from woman is what proportion the different parts of his body take towards each other.
If he fulfils the criteria of the golden ratio, in terms of shoulder width to waste width, and torso length to complete height, then he is genetically seen as more attractive, and more likely to be “fit” (in a biological sense) by a woman.
Now clearly this is genetically plausible, but what is more likely is that some entrepreneur has come up with a system from men to rebalance their body into the classic golden ratio proportions, and become as it were, something of an Adonis.
It may therefore not surprise you to learn that the system in question is a weight loss, body toning and fitness program from men, called the Adonis golden ratio. You can click here to find out all about it – it’s also marketed as the Adonis Index, and is written by John Barban, a man who spent his life in the field of weight loss, dieting and body shape.
Now whether or not is going to get you the girl is no question, but if you’re interested in getting a better body, feeling fine, reducing stress, and above all losing weight rapidly, then the Adonis golden ratio is a great program for you. And, if it happens to get you the girl, even better!